Every marriage goes through challenges. If you’re going through a turbulent crisis in your marriage, I want to assure you that I’ve toiled that path before. I took some steps and voila! They helped.
I’m going to share practical tips that will help you achieve the lost affection in your marriage. But before we go into this, let me tell you some warning signs that depict your wedding is not going right and needs some improvement.
Warning signs that show your marriage need an improvement
A man doesn’t wake up one day and says he wants a divorce. The same goes for women. There would have been some signs showing that things are falling apart already.
When you are unable to correct the defects, it may either lead to divorce and in rare cases, suicide or even murder. Here are some of the signs:
- Breaking communication
- Constant arguments
- Lack of trust
- Feeling happy when your spouse is away
- Sexual and emotional detachment
What happens to your family when things are not going right
When a love affair becomes a battle of hatred, the unexpected may happen. It will hunt you emotionally and even physically. Things you would do without stress become things you struggle to achieve.
Here are some of the things that are likely to happen to the family during such a period:
- Constant nagging at the children
- Divided attention
What to do to improve your marriage
1. Locate the problem source
To effectively get rid of the menace ravaging your family, you must locate the source of the problem. That will help you to understand the next step to take and how to ensure it doesn’t repeat itself.
Making assumptions in a relationship is unhealthy, take your time to study your home. Think about all subtle hints that was thrown your way before, there might be clues within them.
2. Bridge every communication gap
Communication is an essential tool that helps to bring your marriage together. In every marriage, communication is the key to happiness.
Communication is beyond talking about what to eat. Emotional intelligence is part of the active forms of communication in marriage. Know when your spouse wants some space, know when they have mood swings, and when they are happy.
As they say, tears do not always mean a woman is sad; the same way, smiling doesn’t mean a woman is happy either – that’s what emotional intelligence reveals to you.
3. Spend more time with the family
Yes, you’re a busy man. You are attending a seminar in Hongkong today, a conference in Italy tomorrow. You hardly have time for your family because you want your family to be financially independent. That’s not all your family needs.
The family needs your presence, affection, and attention. Out of your busy schedules, create some time to go out with your family, shop. Every moment you spend with your family is always memorable. It makes the bond stronger. It makes your children love and understand you better. Sometimes, it could be the only chance for your children to ask questions about what bothers them.
If there’s a problem at work, don’t keep it away from your spouse. Be open-minded and don’t be tight lipped.
The piece of advice given by your spouse could lift you out of the difficult situation you find yourself. In addition to solving your own woes, it give you an opportunity to connect with your spouse.
There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage. There will be times you’ll face challenges and feel like giving up. With the tips provided above, it sets up in salvaging your marriage and put it back together again.